Sunday, 11 May 2008


I hope all of you who are mothers had a great day and that you at least heard from your family today.
And all of you who have mothers, I hope that you remembered to at least call your mother and tell her how much that you love her.

I didn't forget my mother and when the pooch and I set off for an early morning walk on the beach, I had a very special cargo in my backpack.

When my last dog died, I had her cremated. Kate was her name and she had spent a lot of her early life with Mum, Dad and my Brother.
Mum asked if I would keep her ashes til she died and spread them on our beach with hers.

I'd kept mum's ashes for two years and Kate's for six years but it was time and there could not be a better day.

So as their remains combined and mixed with the sands of the beach that they both loved so much I said goodbye----goodbye, happy mothers day and I love you both.

And you wonder why I walk that beach in the rain.


Fanny said...

I have so much respect for you to show your love for your dear departed Mum so openly. Consider this your nomination for SNAG of the century.

Clyde said...

Shouldnt all love be shown openly ?

Fanny said...

Not all. I love someone, but he doesn't love me. He would not appreciate it if I showed him love openly.

For your Mum, and family, if you love them, yes of course show it openly. But lots of us don't feel comfortable to show it.

Harley said...

Awww... That was very very nice of you. They're together now anyway. I live beside a beach too, only I'd say mine isn't as nice as yours.

Mine kinda smells...


Still waiting for shark pics.

What a lovely tribute for your Mum.
You're a sensitive bugger, aren't you?

Keshi said...

Im crying now.

u r such a decent humabeing Clyde and thats rare these days!

God bless ur Mum's soul and Kate's too! MWAH!


Keshi said...

btw did u see my mums day post? :)


Clyde said...

All beaches are peaceful in their own way and all of them smell of something

Clyde said...

Sensitive-----hmm----probably sensitive to other peoples needs or requests.
It's what Mum wanted, and I had promised----and you always keep a promise

I am still not sure what to believe and I envy people with a strong belief.
But if there is a heaven, then I am sure that all of my family are there.
I just hope that they are not waiting for me.

Stacy The Peanut Queen said...

That is both the sweetest and the saddest thing I've seen in a long time, Clyde.

It was a terrific tribute to your mom and to Kate too. :)

Keshi said...

:) Clyde ur witty too. And that I like!

**But if there is a heaven, then I am sure that all of my family are there.

Im not sure either..abt Heaven n Hell. Cos I feel this world itself is Heaven n Hell.

btw come take part in my current post ;-)



Clyde said...

It really wasn't that sad.
It was the arrangement that I had with my Mum, so it is fine. My Dad's ashes are on the same beach so I will think of them as I walk the beach that they all loved

Stacy The Peanut Queen said...

I think it's awesome, Clyde.

Clyde said...

At least I can say I know where all of my family is all of the time.
I just hope whoever does it for me, lets me join them

Allie-gator said...

This is such an awesome way to say Goodbye. How sweet, loving and thoughful!

You are one to be admired Clyde.

Clyde said...

It has been three nights now and I have walked the beach each night.
I almost feel like I have liberated a caged bird and wish I had done it before.
I suppose when I whisper goodnight as I leave the beach, other people think I'm strange

Spiky Zora Jones said...

oh bring out so many emotions out of me. I heart you, honey. You Rock!

My mother and father are both gone... but I do take flowers there for Mother's Day. And yes I do still cry. I miss our talks and her gentle touch. Her laugh was contagious and her hugs were like air...I remember one time she had ice in a hand towel on my forehead and her holding me in her arms because I was hurt. She giggled at why...I hit a football with my brothers baseball bat and pyshics being what it is...hit a ball with a bounced right back with the same force...right in the forehead. "OUCH!" Little girls runs to mommy crying. The pain was not so bad after I was in her arms.

Did I mention I was 18 years old? hehehe...just kidding. I was in grammer school, quite young.

Ciao babes...have a wonderful day.

ann said...

Oh Clyde, that is sweet. I would walk that beach as much as I could, it is so much better than having to go to a cemetary. They are gone but not forgotten.

Clyde said...

So are you telling me that you are more than 18 now ?
I thought little girls ran to their Dads and little boys rant to their Mums.
Hey, as long as you remember them--And I always think its better to remember them on a birthday or Mothers / Fathers day, than on the day you lost them

Clyde said...

I realised early in life that I didnt go to my maternal Grandparents graves in a cemetary.
They were cremated and their remains were in a wall. As all of the rellies died off, I got custody of the plots, so I took them out of the wall and spread them in the rose gardens---I still dont go there but I didnt like them cemented in---
All of my family is free and I know where to remember them--in my heart and on that beach

ann said...

I hate to say it but, I'm not a big fan of Mother's/Father's Day either. I do not want to be buried either, I kmow that sounds silly. I do not like the idea of being in the ground, the thought scares the hell out of me. How is the beach, how's the weather??? You are so damb lucky to live by the beach, I have to fly there if I want to go to a beach.

Clyde said...

Yep, you dont want to be in that box knocking to get out and no one can hear you.
I suppose at least Mothers / Fathers days are times you will remember them----and its better to remember their life instead of their death.
The weather has been beautiful but turning to storms at the end of the week------the pooch and I will be the only ones on the beach---I love the power of the sea during a storm

Wait. What? said...

Lovely. No wonder you walk that beach so much!

Keshi said...

Clyde go read my reply to ya and ans my qns. LOL!