Monday, 25 October 2010


A few years ago I went to Malaysia to visit a friend of mine who was based there in the Australian Air force.
His Asian wife told him that he should take me on a tour of the "bars".
Now, I'm not naive but this is my mates wife sending us out, so I'm thinking we are out for a night of drinking----but we are in Asia, so yes you are right.

No sooner had we sat down than two girls are sitting at our table and asking us to buy them drinks. I'll buy any lady a drink so of course I bought drinks ----the conversation soon turned to sex and we are being offered everything with a very reasonable (cheap) price tag----we had a good few drinks and I realised that I was alone with this girl---my mate had disappeared with the other girl---married men.
Now I have nothing against the very honourable profession but I will never pay for sex---just something in my head----but I paid my companion, bought her another drink or two and sat there talking to her.
She told me that she got paid a very small amount for each drink that I bought and that she got half of the money that she was paid for sex (so I gave her a few dollars more for herself)----she was from a very poor family and this was the best way that she could make money for her family----her mother had been in the business before her. She introduced me to a very beautiful girl who sat down with us to talk---business was slow----but then she told me that this beauty was her brother.
Brother---no no, sister---no sir he is my brother--"show him"----and he did---he had quite substantial wedding tackle------he told me the same sort of story----that this was the best way he had to support his family----and with a very tidy body, hormone enhanced breasts--he showed me---he was earning a good living giving and taking what he could----and he told me that us Anglo Saxon people enjoy playing with lady boys.---NOT ME BUDDY, but thanks for the show.

My mate convinced his wife that he should take me down to Singapore for a week---and she agreed-----he actually needed to get away for a week because he had an STD from our visit the bars.
On our second night he took me to the Offshore Club---at least he told me that we were going to a place full of lady boys-----I admit that it was a great night and neither of us disappeared to a dark place to be tugged or swallowed by the stars of the show----but I spotted who I thought was my neighbours daughter---I walked over, tapped her on the shoulder and said "Elizabeth, what are you doing here"----the answer was in a very deep voice and after explaining myself, I had a friend for the night-----we left at 5 in the morning and my "Elizabeth" jumped in the cab with us and directed us to the best place for breakfast----her/his name was Marina---we had breakfast with the other lady boys and grabbed a cab back to the hotel---Marina came with us because she lived that way--so I paid the cabby to take her home.
Around midday, we were having breakfast/lunch and Marina turned up---this beautiful woman/man showed us around town--places my mate had never seen and the cheapest shopping ever---I tried to buy her dinner at one of the better hotels but she wouldn't come in because her sister worked there----her story was the same as those in Malaysia---this was the best way he/she could earn money to support his/her family---but he made sure that his sister followed another life. We wanted to eat there so without embarrassment to my new friend, I paid him/her for a great time, with no sex---wished her/him good luck and it was over.
Marina did tell me that they were called Shims and there was a yearly competition to find the Queen of the Shims---the winner received the option of an all expenses paid sex change operation in Denmark----ooh, what a prize---you have just won having your dick chopped off---be still my heart.

Well here I am in Asia, so my mate drove me up and across the Thailand border----no sooner are we in our hotel and the lift/elevator driver is offering us everything from his 16 year old sister to his 12 year old brother.
OK, I'm an Australian and pretty broadminded, but offering your whole family up between the ground floor and the tenth floor seemed pretty sad to me----I spoke to the lift driver later and basically, this was the only way that his family survived and they were lucky because he had his contacts in the hotel and they all got plenty of work.
I was not surprised to go to the bars and find the lady boys in action---and god some of these guys/girls are bloody stunning----and what is it about me that I end up talking to them----and would you guess---yep, same story---poor family and the best way of earning a dollar.

OK, I've finished my tour but then on line I see this thing about Futanari Dolls in Japan-----it's the same thing all over again but nothing is said about being from poor families---more it is an honourable profession---OK, I'll believe that---the families must be so proud---my son is pretty and has breasts and does things with men---oh, and with unsuspecting women.---Japanese

So this week I hear from an old work mate I haven't heard from in years---he has been running a bar in the Philippines for the past five years----his girls earn an average wage of $4 a day but get paid extra per drink bought by their customer and they pay a premium on anything that they earn by taking a customer off site---hmm, must be tour guides----he told me that his biggest earners were lady boys--and told me the same story about them---
But what he did say, that totally astounded me, was that as the girls get older, they want to get pregnant---because their children are their superanuation---those kids will play the same game and support their parents as they get older.

Lets just finish this off----I saw this documentary about six months ago about the big earners in the sex industry in India were lady boys----I think they were called Hindras----and the most beautiful could win competitions and end up with a full sex change operations----and guess what---they were from poor families and it was the best way of earning money.

I want to go to Vietnam in the near future and I have seen some of the locals portrayed as cheap sex workers---it is not my intention to look for sex workers but am I going to find lady boys working their hearts out for poorer families
I love Asia---it is great to be and see somewhere that has a completely different lifestyle to my own. Most Asians are very gentle people and very proud of their countries and way of life.
Is it sad that they find a way of life offering sexual services to Anglo tourists---is it sad that young boys become women by profession---but what would their life be if they didn't make this choice

Oh, and I have payed plenty of sex workers in Asia money but none for sex---but I have learnt a lot.


Venom said...

Dear sweet Clyde, you're a true 'people person', aren't you? I think it's very kind of you to pay sex trade workers just to talk - what a miserable way to support a family. On the ladies who want to have children to carry on the family business -- wonder how many stupid tourist men have children they don't know or care about? Another good reason to keep it under wraps...

It's been a few years since I even went out to a bar, but I never once had to ask a man to buy me a drink. Then again, I wasn't selling anything...

BTW, just in case you ever need to know (there being no bartender here to tell you) Vodka & tonic with a big slice of lime please.

You're a darling man.

The Invisible Seductress said...

It's sad. The "babies" are out there doing things too. Young girls being pimped out by their own families! Breaks my heart.

Just telling it like it is said...

I thought you said that guy was suppose to meet me...he's married? Now get your buttt here

Anonymous said...

Thank you for being unique. I think I've already told you that. :)

Here we have the same problem plus the "trata de blancas (white slave trade)".

Clyde said...


So that's vodka tonic and a slice of lime---Ok, so what are be gonna talk about.
It's funny how they look at their profession---it's a job and they can suppoprt their families--and that is a big thing in Asia

Clyde said...


I never went looking for them but I never saw the very young girls or boys working the game.
I understand if they are doing it by choice but not pimped out by their families

Clyde said...


Now would I do that to you---no, another guy and well and truly single.
But if you are willing to settle for second best, I'm on the way.
Leave the key under the mat

Clyde said...


I don't think I'm unique---I might care a bit more than some people and see the person, not their circumstances.
I thought that there may be some parts of your country with the same problems---and it would be so easy to get into it just for the money

-eve- said...

*serious nod* good post.
Being honest, and speaking for myself, Asians are realistic; survivors. Honour isn't really much good if your whole family is starving to death. And there's a self-respect that comes from supporting your family; not sure if it equals the self-respect of keeping your body 'pure', 'cos I haven't been in that kind of position, but one way of looking at it may be to see it as making the most of your abilities; I use my brains, others whose strong point are their bodies use them that way, I guess :-) Thought-provoking, your post - will go to sleep now and ponder ... :-)

Harley said...

Oh lord. This was an education. I have a lot of respect for those who are in that age-old profession but I think in modern times the work has become more dangerous and dirty.

Good on you for being so understanding and nice.

Clyde said...


I totally understand why they do it--and who am I to throw stones.
Many people world wide get into the trade because they want to and they find it easy, these people seem to be their by circumstance.
I find them honourable in that they are there for their family.
Being Malaysian, I suppose that you should count yourself lucky that you come from a family not requiring support and with an ability to let you use you brain instead of your body

Clyde said...


I have the utmost respect for anyone who works to support a family---the profession doesn't really matter.
I feel sorry for those forced into this profession by their circumstances.
I dont think the world in Asia has got to be more dangerous or dirty, but I am sure that in my world and yours things have.
I think I am being realistic to appreciate the people as people, not tagging them by their livelyhood

Spiky Zora Jones said...

clyde: so if a guy wants a boy/girl, does that make him...the guy that wants a boy/girl gay? Does it make her that wants a boy/girl...a lesbian?

it's sad that this profession is the best way to support a family. but I do know that a stripper can make $1500-$2000 easy in just one weekend.

later babe. xx

♥ The Lyrical Designer ♥ said...

Theyre actually very nice people. Unless you mess with them. LOL They're always in the movies too. Acting as hairdressers and best friends and then they change roles and do all the beating up.
Oh lawdy. Living in Bangkok for several years myself, i have now lost the ability to distinguish who's what.

All i can say is what you did was the right thing. encouraging prostitution in Thailand really ruins people's lives... Not to mention the STDs that are rampant. My friend is a doc there. and He is just amazed at the number of ladyboys and girls coming in with STDs....whew.

Just telling it like it is said...

The key is under the mat

Clyde said...

Miss Jones

I don't know what it makes you if you are out looking for a lady boy--the problem is that you run accross them without looking for them
A friend of mine picked one up in a bar in Malaysia but wanted to back out when he discovered the dangly bits--he paid him/her but wanted no more---basically, if he didn't at least get his knob swallowed, he was going to get beaten up----and it doesn't look good on your resume'---beaten up by a lady/boy in ta back alley of KL.
Hey, if you are happy to take your clothes off for money or have sex for money, then why not

Clyde said...

Lyrical Lady

You seem to know a lot about the subject for a young lady---ha ha ha.
Hijras--thanks--yes I saw a documentary on them--very interesting, but sad. Some very pretty looking boys/girls--as Indian girls tend to be.
I dont think they need any encouragement---there is always going to be a market and they are always going to sell themselves until their looks stop them---I suppose thats why the girls get pregnant to have someone to support them when they give up.
STDs will always be a problem in the sex industry----I know my mate used to say that they were always warned not to visit the bars for a month after the American Navy had been in port

Clyde said...


Ok, just have to stock up on my vitamins and little blue pills

-eve- said...

Good point, Clyde! Cos I think if I'd been in the business, I might have wondered 'what if' (about the other life, where people do normal work). On the other hand, now that I'm doing normal work, there are times when I almost consider what it'd be like to be in a profession where I can earn so much more per hour (except that in the line of work you mentioned, age is against you; while in my line of work, age and experience adds to your worth ;-)).

♥ The Lyrical Designer ♥ said...

Hehehe :D one knows about these things if one has Hijras walking up and down their streets everyday!

Clyde said...


At least you have the choice--
And you are right---your use by date will never come----
Oh, I think experience might count in both industries, and you would probably be continually learning in both industries

Clyde said...

Lyrical Lady

And it is good that one is not offended by people going about their own business----and you find nothing amazing about their way of life.
You would think that you would be more confinent in your way of life

-eve- said...

LOL! :-)
But I think 'old and experienced' just doesn't cut it in the former, while in the latter, it's a plus point ;-)

Sister Christian said...

Stories like that are always very heartbreaking. It's terrible to know that there are enough people in the world who would pay all sorts of money for the services of people and children who do not have the very basics for survival. What's worse is that they are treated as slaves and spend their lives in those sorts of lifestyles forever trying to earn their way out and they never do.
As for young boys wanting to become females for the sake of their profession...definitely strange. Not that I have anything against sex changes, but I feel they're doing it for the wrong reasons.

Clyde said...

Sister Deb

It is sad
It is another world
But they don't seem so sad about it--it is almost like it is normal.
I will never understand those who try to use children---either those who pimp them out or those who abuse them.
Hmm, sex changes--well I guess it gives them more choices

Jules said...

Are you a counsellor by profession? If not, you should be, or in some avenue of social work. xxxx

Clyde said...


No, I have never been a counsellor.
I was just raised with an ethos that everbody is equal under the sun and given the same opportunities---we are